I’ve been taking life for granted. Let me explain.
Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass…
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about life, and in particular, one cheesy saying about it; “life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain”.
I’ve probably heard and seen this quote a billion times, but for some reason, it has stuck with me since the last time I’ve heard it. With that, I started analyzing it. It got me thinking about my life, and what I wanted it to be compared to how it is now. It made me realize something, I spend too much time wanting my life to be a certain way and not enough time enjoying where I am now.
Sometimes accepting where you are in your life in the current moment can be tough, I have my days when I just feel discouraged when I think about the life I want vs the life I have. And something I have got to remember is that there’s nothing wrong with the life I have.
That being said, life is going well for me and my family right now. We have a roof over our head, food in our fridge, and we are healthy. But we want a new house, a new car, to be spending more time doing what we love. I am having a hard time being happy thinking about everything I’m not obtaining despite my life going well. And that’s where I’m fucking up.
Maybe I’m just selfish, or ambitious. Whatever you want to call me, I know I want more for myself and my family and when I don’t feel like I’m doing my very best or achieving what I want to be achieved, I feel like shit. Like, complete shit.
Another thing I’ve been doing a lot of is waiting. Waiting for my turn at the wheel of fortune. Waiting for people to acknowledge my work. Waiting for the life I want. In all of this waiting, I have noticed myself starting to become a passive person in my own life. I’m not as present as I want to be, and a big thing I’m dealing with now is how to be here now. This may be a hard truth to swallow but I’ve started to think now that maybe my life will never be the way I want it, at least not 100%. That just does not seem to be how it works.
It’s about learning to dance in the rain
Everybody has things to improve on and things they want out of life. An unsatisfiable list of wants. Whether it be objects, or money, or personal well-being. There is always something that is going to stand in the way of us and a reason to be happy with our lives. But the reality is, I can be happy without these things. In simply realizing that the life I’m living right now is something to be happy about.
I don’t want to come off as one of those “I woke up this morning, that’s all I need out of life” type of people. Even though there is nothing wrong with being optimistic, it just doesn’t always come off as realistic. People go through shit. Sometimes it’s easier said than done to just be grateful for your lot in life and that’s just the way it is.
Maybe you’re getting everything you deserve. Maybe you’re not. That’s not the point. Like I said before, we have an unsatisfiable list of wants as people. But letting those wants dictate our ability to be happy with ourselves is where we fuck up. You are never going to get ahead if you don’t start separating your wants from your happiness. Stop waiting for things to be the way you want them. There is no reason to put your happiness on hold, life is just too damn short.
And maybe it just comes down to acceptance. Accepting that lives are supposed to be crazy and chaotic and sometimes overwhelming and at other times underwhelming. That’s just what it is to be a person. We all always have things to work on. There are no perfect lives as there are no perfect people. And maybe it’s just me, but there is something that puts the pressure off of everything in knowing that not everything is going to be perfect.
Don’t let this discourage you. Go for what you want. It is possible to achieve your dreams, just don’t lose sight of the big picture. Things take time.
You’ve got this.